Summary

This episode of the If Only podcast, hosted by Brenda McGregor, features Diana KH, a distinguished attorney, real estate broker, entrepreneur, and founder of DK Law Group. Based in Owings Mills, Maryland, Diana specializes in estate planning and real estate law with over 15 years of experience and manages seven companies. She holds a JD and multiple advanced degrees, including an MBA and MPA, from the University of Baltimore. Recognized nationally, she was named one of the ABA’s Top 40 lawyers under 40 and is a top producer in real estate.

The episode explores Diana’s personal and professional journey, focusing on her primary “if only” statement: “If only I was worthy.” Despite external success, Diana struggled internally with feelings of unworthiness and how that impacted her relationships and business. The conversation covers how her mother’s serious illness and their complex relationship became a catalyst for Diana to confront and overcome this barrier by setting firm boundaries and redefining self-worth.

Diana shares powerful insights about the importance of self-validation, boundary-setting, and personal growth, both in family dynamics and business. She also discusses her philosophy on service and legal practice, emphasizing personalized client care beyond legal facts and finances. The episode closes with Diana’s reflections on what she is most proud of personally—raising children equipped with coping skills—and professionally—her recognition by the ABA and her growth in embracing vulnerability and authenticity publicly.

Key Insights

• Primary “If Only”: Diana’s core struggle was with self-worth, feeling unworthy despite outward accomplishments.

• Catalyst for Change: Her mother’s illness and the difficult caregiving experience forced Diana to confront her worthiness and set boundaries.

• Boundary-Setting: Diana learned to separate personal feelings from others’ behaviors, especially with family and friends, enabling healthier relationships.

• Giving Without Expectation: She recognized the difference between true generosity and giving with the expectation of reciprocation.

• Personal vs. Professional Boundaries: She applies boundary-setting rigorously in business, separating friendship from professional decisions.

• Empowerment Through Self-Responsibility: Diana emphasizes that only she can provide for her own worth and emotional needs.

• Legal Philosophy: Diana approaches law with empathy, focusing on clients’ lived experiences and long-term impacts, not just legal outcomes.

• Vulnerability and Authenticity: She embraces discomfort publicly (e.g., appearing on TV without hiding her body insecurities) as a form of personal empowerment.

• Parenting Focus: She prioritizes teaching her children coping skills to navigate their unique identities and challenges.

• Support System: Having a supportive husband and a life coach friend has been vital to her personal growth.

• 90-Day Rule: Diana uses a 90-day trial period to test personal and business changes, emphasizing what truly works for her life and values.